Mar 24 2009
Steve Harvey’s Advice About Men
When problems occur within a relationship it’s easy to lay the blame on your partner’s doorstep. What is not so easy is taking a good long hard look at yourself and how you may have contributed to the problem. It takes two to tango.
With the help of a support group and a wonderful counselor, I have learned much these last few weeks about who I am and why I do the things I do. One of the most important discoveries I have made was my inability to set standards. If you don’t have a firm set of standards and guidelines on how you expect to be treated, then it should be no surprise to find yourself trampled upon. I spent my entire life leaving myself open to be used and manipulated by friends, family and partners. People treat you how you allow them to.
This idea really hit home with me today when I watched Comedian Steve Harvey, the best-selling author of Act Like a Lady, Think Like Man on the Oprah Show. This man is not only funny but also insightful and full of common sense.
He made clear the importance of having a firm set of expectations when entering into a relationship. It makes it easier for the man when he understands what your standards and rules are. He now knows what you expect of him and he will either respect it or walk away. But at least there is no confusion and no time wasted on a relationship that is going nowhere.
Faced with an audience of 300 women, Steve reminded women to stay patient and remember that real men aren’t afraid of standards and requirements.
“You’ve got to wait on this guy to come along. He’s coming. He’s out there. He’s already created. God has already made him,” he says. “He has a job. He’s wearing the clothes you like. He’s walking around. You’re not waiting on him to be born. He exists today. All you’ve got to do is stay patient.”
“God would not create your soul mate
and not allow you to meet him.”
Click HERE for clips of Steve Harvey from the Oprah Show.
